As a music fan, Facebook can be a wonderful place. It’s a boundless source of new music and
information as well as a fabulous place to connect with fellow fans through
Facebook fan groups. But, there’s also a
seedy underbelly. One where trolls look
to ruin your happy space and fellow fans are assholes. But there’s no need to let that ruin your
good time. As a long time lurker in many
Facebook Fan Groups, I offer to you my ten
helpful tips to surviving as a music fan on Facebook.
1. PROCEED WITH CAUTION – You new in town? Just joined a Facebook fan group? Take a minute and look around. Scroll through a good month’s worth of posts
and check out the general vibe. What
looks like a fan group may actually just be a troll group. So, before you go wearing your heart on your
sleeve, make sure you’re not setting yourself up for heartbreak. No one wants
to be a victim. If you’re in the wrong
part of town, call an Uber and GET OUT!
2.
SEARCH BEFORE POSTING – You finally found the
right group. A sea of fans just like
you. You’re eager. You have the world’s
most brilliant idea. An amazing topics
of conversation. A question that NO ONE
has ever asked before, right?
Wrong. Chances are, the question’s
probably been asked before. And if it’s
one of those questions that gets asked every few weeks, more than likely, you’re
going to catch slack for it. So before
asking that one of a kind question in a Facebook Fan Group, use the handy-dandy
search feature. Type key words like ICE
CREAM FLAVOR into the group search feature to find out if the question “If you
could make an ice cream for XXX band, what would it be called?” has already
been asked. Does it hurt to ask it again? No, not really. But, if you do ask a question that has been
asked a billzion times before you, don’t be surprised if you get some heat. And we all know heat and ice cream = melted
mess.
3.
KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE – If you’re a new fan of a band
or artist, understand that there are those that came before you. Be respectful. Be calm.
Sometimes, new fans are excited. But that excitement can come across like
that of a new puppy. Sure, it’s cute, at first.
But that old dog on the porch is only going to take so much of that new
puppy smell before they start to nip. And
if that cranky old pooch starts to growl in your direction, simply do what any smart
pup figures out quickly. Back away
slowly and let sleeping dogs lie.
4.
OPINIONS ARE NOT FACTS – We’ve all heard that
old adage “opinions are like assholes, everyone has one.” And the internet is
full of assholes… I mean opinions. That’s
the beauty of music. Some things aren’t
for everyone. If everyone liked the same
thing or thought the same way, we’d all be robots. And robots have no soul. If you wish to have
your opinion respected, then respect the opinion of others. We don’t all have to agree. That’s what makes intelligent conversation
fun. Avoid incendiary words like “faggot”,
“cunt” or other offensive nominatives that I probably shouldn’t list. If something makes you mad, utilize the angry
face emoji under the like feature. There’s no need to call someone a “twatbucket”
because they thought a set list was boring.
5.
DO NOT SEEK VALIDATION ON FACEBOOK– This really
goes hand in hand with #4. Facebook is a
poor place to seek validation. It’s also
a bad place to seek free therapy. If you
post an opinion in a Facebook music group, chances are, someone is going to
disagree with you. If they do, don’t let
it ruin your day. Engage with those like-minded
people that make you feel all warm and fuzzy and SIMPLY IGNORE the ones that don’t
share your point of view. If you’re a sensitive creature, this is sound advice.
6.
THINK BEFORE YOU POST – Sometimes, I type out
entire paragraphs of text, on ridiculous tirades, because someone on the
internet has either hurt my feelings (I’m a truly delicate peanut) or because
some idiot has made me angry (I’m a Gemini, I can go either way.) BUT, before I
hit POST, I usually walk away from my computer or phone and take a second. And then I think to myself, would I want someone
to say this to my mother? And if the answer
is “no”, then I hit delete. Perhaps, you don’t like your mom, and that’s a bad
example. Regardless, take a few minutes
to calm down and think if what your responding to even really dignifies a
response.
7.
CO-EXISTING WITH TROLLS – If it looks like a
troll or acts like a troll, it’s probably a troll. Shocker, right? Internet trolls feed off naïve, unsuspecting
music fans. They look just real music
fans, but they hide a dark sinister secret – THEY’RE ASSHOLES. While you’re curled up in the fetal position in
the corner of your bedroom because some douche made fun of you, they’ve moved onto
the next victim. They are heartless, plastic
creatures with big noses and frizzy hair. Who knew that dolls could use the internet, am
I right? But behind those nasty fingers spreading hate through the QWERTY, they’re
really just insecure bullies who don’t get enough love. And letting any troll on the internet ruin
your day or the music you love, if by far the silliest thing you could ever do.
Now, I don’t suggest this next tactic,
unless you are relatively witty and have a good sense of humor. But, in my experience, sometimes, you can
troll the troll with wonderful results. So, if a troll calls you dumb, act dumb.
If a troll calls you ugly, take the world’s most hideous selfie and share it
with them. When a troll realizes you
aren’t going to feed their need for drama or melt, they get bored and move
on. It’s also a great way to keep them engaged
so they can’t find other innocent victims. So, in some ways, you're doing your part to help make the world wide web a better place.
And for the love of all things Mihali, I mean holy, if someone comes into fan group and starts trolling with an obvious troll like “This band is stupid”, don’t respond with someone like “This is a fan group, why are you even here?” That answer should be obvious. They are here to troll you! DON’T FEED THE TROLLS!
8.
I’M FRIENDS WITH THE BAND- Maybe you’ve known
the band since they were playing shows in the sandbox back in elementary
school. Perhaps, you’ve never met them
at all, but the drummer accepted your friend request. Maybe the band even liked
one of your post that you tagged them in.
Part of a band building their empire is about building relationships. Regardless of the length of time you’ve known
a musician, your opinion doesn’t hold more or less value than anyone else. In fact, if you truly are their “friend”,
keep personal drama off the internet. You
wouldn’t want someone airing your dirty laundry on the internet, would you? I know I wouldn’t. Especially my underwear.
9.
TURN OFF YOUR DEVICE – Music is a great muse,
one of the best. Let the music inspire
you. Things getting to heated online? Paint a picture, go for a run, make fan-art, write
a pretentious blog about being a music fan on the internet and then post it online.
Whatever it is, find your zen. And when
stupid stuff happens on Facebook, remember these ancient words of wisdom “IT’S
FACEBOOK!!!”
10.
DON’T LET STUPIDITY RUIN YOUR GOOD TIME – A long,
long time ago, circa 2015, I knew this girl.
And she and her then fiancé made a piece of fan art that consisted of incorrect
lyrics. Oh, the horror. And when the
internet lost their minds, her heart was broken. It was an honest mistake. Even the fan run website had the lyrics
incorrect. But some of those people were so mean, she swore off the band’s
music and the entire fan base. Which was
unfortunate because she had just gotten a tattoo inspired by some of the band’s
lyrics (thankfully, these were correct.) And as she sat in her tiny apartment
sobbing tears of heartbreak, she got a phone call from a fellow frend… I mean
friend… and they reminder her that the music was the most important thing and giving
up something that gave her so much joy and happiness because a few people were
jackwagons was pretty silly. And for
that I… I mean, she is eternally grateful.
So, there you have it folks, some friendly assistance on being
a music fan on Facebook. I hope you enjoyed
this little piece of useless advice. If
you liked it, feel free to share it with the world. Or maybe you think its complete garbage and
that I’m a trite, opinionated know-it-all.
Honestly, the latter is probably true.
But hey, I haven’t written a decent blog in a hot minute. And just like opinions, or assholes, they can’t
all be winner.